Real Love and Genuine Happiness

Real Love and Genuine Happiness
Real love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves.

When we give real love, we’re not disappointed, hurt or angry, even people are thoughtless or inconsiderate or give us nothing in return – including gratitude - because our concern is for their happiness, not our own.

Real love is unconditional.

It’s real love when other people care our happiness without any concern for themselves.

They’re not disappointed or angry when we make our foolish mistakes, when we don’t do what they want, or even when we inconvenience them personally.

Sadly, few of us have either given or received that kind of love, and without it we experience a terrible void on our live, which we try to fill with money, power, food, approval, sex and entertainment.

But no matter, how much of those substitutes we acquire we remain empty, alone, afraid and angry, because the one thing we relay need is Real love. Without it, we can only be miserable; with it, out happiness is guaranteed.
Real Love and Genuine Happiness

Obstacles Enhance Love

Obstacles Enhance Love
Some obstacle is necessary to swell the tide of libido to its height; and at all periods of history whenever natural barriers in the way of satisfaction have not suffered, mankind has erected conventional ones in order to enjoy love.

Why are some people attracted to those who are not interested on them? Could it be the challenge that intrigues them? The thrill of the chase? Clearly, not having is more arousing for such people than having.

Folk songs are one of the best sources of folk wisdom about strong emotions such as longing and romantic love.

According to one of the country song, “all the girl get prettier at closing time.” Is it true when the time for closing the bar draws near and with it the painful thought of going home alone, the standard go down, and the attractions of the available people in the vicinity go up?

The study finding showed that a linear increase in attractiveness rating of both men and women.

As the hour grew later, the opposite sex in the bar appeared more attractive. A later study showed that this effect was not the result of alcohol consumption. It is noteworthy that men rated women as more attractive than women rated men.

Why do girls prettier at closing time? One explanation is offered by ‘reactance theory’. When our freedom to act, think or feel is threatened we are motivated to try to get it back. This is why people want more the thing they have lost and why in the case of romantic love, they desire those who are just interested in them and those they could not or did not have.

Reactance theory also explains why obstacles enhance love. To enhance love says reactance theory the obstacle needs to be outside the relationship, for example an enforced separation parental objection.

The most famous case of such obstacles to love is no doubt the tragic story of Romeo and Juliet, story that pulls on our heart strings hundreds of years after it was written.
Obstacles Enhance Love

Casual dating

Casual dating
Casual dating period is a beginning with the second planned meeting or date and ending when both partners experience themselves as being “serious” or in love.

There are two different kinds of causal dating, which are most likely to be distinguished by the time period in which they occur.

First, during adolescent exploration, young people experiment with romantic involvements. They may “spend time” or “mess a around,” but often end relationship suddenly because they feel awkward or just get tired of being in a relationship and want to try something or someone else.

Adolescent couples are beginning to learn about love, and the main way of distinguishing between casual and serious dating is the length of the relationship.

On the other hand, in college causal dating, cultural norms encourage both sexes to put off seeking a marriage partner until they have finished their studies and gotten established in their career.

Many strident also have not recovered enough emotionally from the breakup of a long term relationship during and after high school to be comfortable with a serious involvement during the early years of college.

Though they may not hold back from sex, and they may allow themselves to explore and experiment with passion and intimacy, they believe in avoiding commitments.

Adolescent exploration occurs widely in Europe and may other places, but casual dating or “going out as friends” in college is prevalent only in North America.
Casual dating