Affairs of the Heart
Romantic love is often dramatic and overwhelming.
Although falling in love can feel as warm and comfortable as putting on a favorite sweater, it also can send you on a personal roller coaster ride.
Your heart the organ primarily responsible for pumping blood through your body, also measure these emotional fluctuations.
It takes your emotional temperature and registers when something extraordinary is happening by quickening its beats.
So it’s certainly no surprise that when something as exciting as falling in love occurs your heart responds.
Although the heart is a popular symbol of love, studies show that the brain responds most intensively to love, sending the first physical messages through a series of chemical releases.
Those first moments of elation, followed by infatuation are brought about when a portion of the brain releases natural amphetamines.
These amphetamines stimulate, or quicken, your heartbeat.
After spending time with the object of your desire that initial rush will subside and your brain will release neurochemicals known as endorphins.
These neurochemicals reduce sensation s of pain and affect emotions.
They help you feel safe and at peace in the company of your beloved.
Affairs of the Heart
Friday, October 30, 2009
Saturday, October 10, 2009
One Night Stand
One Night Stand
The process that occurs in first encounter sex is fairly simple, at least as culturally defined in a bar.
By showing up alone or with only friends, a woman signals that she may be open to new contacts, and these might possibly include sex.
Normally, enough alcohol is consumed so that stranger-anxiety is anesthetized away and conversation is more playful that intimate.
The right “moves” are blatant to avoid embarrassing or potentially dangerous misinterpretation. If both people keep saying yes, they may end up in bed together.
Some people, such as those in the military and workaholics, may be starved for contact, affection and sex because they lack time and a few potential partners are available.
Others may be unwilling to get more involved than one night affairs because of the pain of a recent relationship breakup, fear of intimacy, or fear of the type of men or women to whom they are attracted.
Or they may want to revive their belief in themselves as an attractive person.
Sometimes the motives of enhancing self-esteem with peer group outweigh all the others. For some men daring the pick-up game with friends and beer, masculine history seems to be at stake.
One Night Stand
The process that occurs in first encounter sex is fairly simple, at least as culturally defined in a bar.
By showing up alone or with only friends, a woman signals that she may be open to new contacts, and these might possibly include sex.
Normally, enough alcohol is consumed so that stranger-anxiety is anesthetized away and conversation is more playful that intimate.
The right “moves” are blatant to avoid embarrassing or potentially dangerous misinterpretation. If both people keep saying yes, they may end up in bed together.
Some people, such as those in the military and workaholics, may be starved for contact, affection and sex because they lack time and a few potential partners are available.
Others may be unwilling to get more involved than one night affairs because of the pain of a recent relationship breakup, fear of intimacy, or fear of the type of men or women to whom they are attracted.
Or they may want to revive their belief in themselves as an attractive person.
Sometimes the motives of enhancing self-esteem with peer group outweigh all the others. For some men daring the pick-up game with friends and beer, masculine history seems to be at stake.
One Night Stand
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Sexual Love
Sexual Love
Pure sexuality is a generic determined phenomenon billions of years old and is shared by many creatures, who are much older than us in the evolutionary sense and to whom we do not tend to apply the talent of love.
When a male lizard mates with a female, we view it as a sexual act, not one of love. But natural selection, in its own way, grooms this start over the generations to higher and higher complexities, to better and better perfection, and adds increasingly more mechanisms to initial sexuality, which turn the sexual process onto something more precise, fine tuned and thus more successful.
Love is the tool that assists us to correctly select a mate, to calibrate and gently adjust the process of sexual selection.
Sexual love is an evolutionary-designed tool that guides our selection of a mate. How does it do it? The judgment process involved in whom one falls in love with is based on a large number of criteria.
The first is the mechanism that guides us to fall in love with a person who is genetically similar to ourselves.
The second, on the contrary, is the mechanism that distances us from those who are genetically too similar to ourselves.
How does genetic similarity contribute lot our success in reproducing offspring? Let’s imagine somebody falling in love with a cow. They might make a very nice couple, experiencing lots peace and quite, warmth and harmony.
They would never quarrel and their refrigerator would always be full of diary products. But they would no doubt lack one thing – children.
However, children are not final end; they are but no means. The final end is grandchildren, and this is where difficult problems will arise.
It is, therefore, better for a man to fall in love with a woman, and of all women he will select the one most similar to himself, even within the same town and the same community.
An ever lengthening list of studies has found advantages in mates with great similarities. For instances, the higher the genetic similarity is, the higher fertility rates will be.
Fewer abortions and healthier children will follow.
In addition, the levels of altruism and mutual assistance within the family are higher, harmony and stability in the couple’s life are better, and their marriage satisfaction is greater.
Sexual Love
Pure sexuality is a generic determined phenomenon billions of years old and is shared by many creatures, who are much older than us in the evolutionary sense and to whom we do not tend to apply the talent of love.
When a male lizard mates with a female, we view it as a sexual act, not one of love. But natural selection, in its own way, grooms this start over the generations to higher and higher complexities, to better and better perfection, and adds increasingly more mechanisms to initial sexuality, which turn the sexual process onto something more precise, fine tuned and thus more successful.
Love is the tool that assists us to correctly select a mate, to calibrate and gently adjust the process of sexual selection.
Sexual love is an evolutionary-designed tool that guides our selection of a mate. How does it do it? The judgment process involved in whom one falls in love with is based on a large number of criteria.
The first is the mechanism that guides us to fall in love with a person who is genetically similar to ourselves.
The second, on the contrary, is the mechanism that distances us from those who are genetically too similar to ourselves.
How does genetic similarity contribute lot our success in reproducing offspring? Let’s imagine somebody falling in love with a cow. They might make a very nice couple, experiencing lots peace and quite, warmth and harmony.
They would never quarrel and their refrigerator would always be full of diary products. But they would no doubt lack one thing – children.
However, children are not final end; they are but no means. The final end is grandchildren, and this is where difficult problems will arise.
It is, therefore, better for a man to fall in love with a woman, and of all women he will select the one most similar to himself, even within the same town and the same community.
An ever lengthening list of studies has found advantages in mates with great similarities. For instances, the higher the genetic similarity is, the higher fertility rates will be.
Fewer abortions and healthier children will follow.
In addition, the levels of altruism and mutual assistance within the family are higher, harmony and stability in the couple’s life are better, and their marriage satisfaction is greater.
Sexual Love
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